26 May 2008

No Personal Questions Please!!!!!!!




The above line, sometime back used to be very famous with the stars. Yea, "used" to be, but after few years the stars gave in their efforts of keeping things on a low profile. All thanks to the Indian media, the 'hush hush' talks and the 'chirpy' dates that the stars do, it's all accessible to the common man and of course the woman as well.


Let’s push the politicians, the actors, the cricketers aside and talk about the janathe. For a change let us talk about me. All though I am no less a star, considering my normal status there is this new problem that I face everyday everywhere. Not just myself, this kinda problem I am sure is common for all the working IT girls with ‘miss’ statuses.


Scene #1: There is a wedding happening. Lots of guests are busy discussing about what the girl does, how many days of holidays he has got, what visa the girl is going to get, will they leave India together, and I enter along with my parents. The discussion almost stops and the same people throw questions at me for which according to my mom, I am expected to answer in a very humble way.


Scene #2: Mom and me are buying grocery with the help of “Sudex ho” which is not so popular in Mysore. While I tear the coupons I hear some familiar looking aunty talk with mom, and she asks mom, the same questions which thankfully my mom answers in a humble way.


Scene #3: Dad is dropping me to work. He gets a call on his cell phone; the political pudaari is so loud that I realize why dad doesn’t keep a cell phone having a loud speaker. After lots of discussions about the current political trends, who did what mistake, I hear the caller ask dad the same questions. I hear the same answers mom gives people, of course not in a humble way (dad is a cop).


Scene #4: Surfing the internet I happen to come across one of my old friend. Incidentally she is online and we start talking. After the initial hi, glad to see you here talks, she enquires me with the same prashnegalu.


All the kanyeyaru by now would have guessed the set of questions which are more tougher than the ones in CET/CAT exams. For others here it goes:


1.When are you getting married?


2.Software engineera? What’s your salary?


Ma and Pa have their common answers scripted mentally. They just laugh at the ever curious people that it’s my decision and they are waiting for me to sign off with the green flag.


I read in a social scientific study, that it's important not to confuse correlation with causation. In other words, just because married folks are healthier than single people, it doesn't mean that marriage is causing the health gains. It could just be that healthier people are more likely to be married. I also read that whenever people ask questions that would make you speechless, one should either be confident to answer it or else make sure that those questions do not lessen the emotional quotient.


For declarations like “next you”, I say a “thank you”....


& for the above typical Indian questions, I just shrug my shoulders and say “No personal questions please!!!”.





Quite a star answer alwa? What next? Ah people just ~Pack Up~.


10 comments:

VvK said...

hilarious...heheh
my younger sis is in the same predicament as ya...
she tells them after 5 yrs...
pkg...
they keep me happy...

Pradeep said...

This is one obnoxious character Indians have. We are more bothered about others than oneself. Westerners are more careful about such things; and respect individual privacy.

Another one, is the post-wedding curiosity... about others obviously. "No children?" "How long married"... Now after one child, for years one has to put up with the question: "only one?, don't want another... why don't u plan another honeymoon...." Gosh... No end to this...

I guess the only way out is to find some humour in such things...

Raj said...

Hmmm..... Manadaalada Maathu, Channagide. All most all youngesters face these set of questions one or the other time. good topic to bolg on Kavya, good one

Naanu said...

Now a days emotions are flooding out of u after that incedent, It was never before eventhough above blog is humorous but there is a intensive pain i can see.. Cheerup girl dnt give it up.

Gupta said...

This Pic of ur is really Nice cheers!!

Puneet said...

I am here after a long time..
But quite a hilarious and a true post ..

Take care

rantravereflect said...

i have a guy, i'm 24,my parents wan me to have a kid, n my bro wants to have his own room!!

n here i'm, having the best time ofmy life- unmarried!!!!
heeeee, n well, when i get healthy enough, i'll give marriage a thought.. right nowwwww, i'm jus getting woderfully sick with all those things i'm lovin in life.. :) heeeeeeee;)

soooo, yehhh, no personal ques puhleees!!;)

rantravereflect said...

n niceeeee picture :))))

Chriz said...

hahaha.. kaavyaaa.

and sodex-ho.. i remember using it everywhere... miss them now.. and this pre-marriage bliss just rocks.. have fun...

Ankit Gupta said...

why only IT girls...a question fr a CS engg ;)

 
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